The “Holy Week” Cast of Characters

Holy Week for Barb

Holy Week approaches and it may be beneficial to choose your character about now.  With the Union rules and regulations it’s safer to choose a character now that you wish to play and remember during the holiest of these holy days.

Jesus  (Sorry, already taken.  Try again character.)
Barabbas  My favorite role.  Everything’s forgiven because someone else takes importance over you.  In Monopoly, it’s your “Get Out of Jail Free” card.
Peter  While warming himself with ordinaries at the courtyard fire he wonders if there’s are other gods to follow in the neighborhood
Anna  Since the baptism of Jesus, she’s been in the temple for 33 years praying and waiting for the Messiah.  (Food was sent in but she always refused it.)  A part of her is happy that it’s finally coming to an end.  She says, “KFC anyone?”
Pilate  release “John Boehner or Jesus, John Boehner or Jesus, John Boehner or Jesus  –  reelection time is approaching.”
The Other 10 Apostles “But he said that…”  “Yeah, I know everything he said, I have it on my iPad but none of it happened or makes sense.”  “Yes, but he said to wait.”  “You got it.  He also said that he was God and God was him and other murky stuff about a dove”.  “When’s the first Church council to sort all this stuff out for us?”
Judas  “Ahhhh.  30 more than I had before.  Ben and Jerry’s?  KFC?  No, no, Anna will be there.  Invest it?  Nah, not in this economy.  I wonder if Mary Magdalene is available tonight?”
Mary Magdalene  “I know Judas is coming, I just heard about his new found fortune.  Do I raise my usual rates or just turn him away?”
Apostle John  Let’s wait and see.  I bet he gives his mother to me.  Wow, another mouth to feed but I’ll try.”
Slaves in courtyard  “This joker is about to become the first pope!  Has the Episcopalian Church been founded yet?
Soldiers  “We gotta Unionize.  This guy did nothing, we kill him and he doesn’t even have clothes for us to divide.  Bummer.  Oh well, just another Friday’s workday.”
St. Catherine of Sienna  “This is wonderful.  I can’t describe how I’m feeling right now.  Oh wait?  I haven’t been born yet.”
Simon of Cyrene  “Darn, I could have gone to that concert today and instead…”
Veronica  “Is Ebay with a .com or .net?
Joseph and Nicodemus “You know Joe, we could do this at night when it’s a lot safer and no one’s around to see us.
Mary “Just one more time…”

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Fridays, 3:00-4:00 a.m.

makes_eat_timeNo, I’m not returning home from the bars.  That was my dad’s time to be in our family Catholic church.  Catholic churches years ago would be open all day and all night and folks would volunteer to be in the church at all times.  “24/7” as we’d say today.

My dad was never a lucky man so if there was a parish lottery to determine your time slot then I understand how he got saddled with that time.  But he was vigilant about his obligation.  He never spoke of it but us kids could not help but think of it going to bed on Thursday nights.  My dad rarely got sick but there were occasions when I needed to sub for him.  (Couldn’t Jesus survive just one hour without a visitor?)

As a grade school student, I would walk the dank, dark cold four blocks to our parish church.  Even at that young age, I was sure that purgatory was a future thing that I would easily bypass because of this ungodly gesture for a Godly reason.  I walked up the steep steps to the entrance of our church.  I see the previous unlucky man’s back and I’m sure that he’s grateful that relief has come to relieve him of his 2:00-3:00 a.m. slot.  He smiles at me, says nothing and leaves me alone.

The dank is now gone but not the dark.  The church is shaped like a cross with four large sections.  I sit where Jesus’ feet probably would have been.  Now what?  58 minutes left to honor my father’s pledge but hardly a personal devotion for someone of 10 years.  (“Let’s see how many “Stations of the Cross” there are really?” as if I didn’t already know having served them every Friday during Lent.  “How many lights are not on right now?”  “Does blinking a lot keep you awake longer?”  Numerous questions enter my young mind as I discover it only took two minutes to ask and answer all of them.  So, now what?

“Perpetual Devotion” is what it was called when Catholic churches had no reason to lock up after daily Mass.  Non stop (and we thought cable news – all the time – was something radically new!).  Darkness.  I never dared to leave the pew because there could be someone else in the church.  “Wait?  What if my dad split this loser lottery time with someone else?  Then I could leave earlier!” Nope.  There is no one else in the church for these 54 remaining minutes.  I have to stay awake because, at 10 years old, the judgmental consequences could be on my celestial permanent record.  (Truly, in those days we believed in a heavenly “permanent record.”)

“Hi God, hi Jesus and of course, hi Mary.  It’s Joe and it’s my job to honor my dad’s obligation to be with you all for a long, long time.”  (50 minutes, only.)  “I have school tomorrow and probably will not remember any of this until I feel tired around noontime.  Are you three even awake to hear me now?

It only took one sound.  One creepy, creaking sound to make me alert and ready.  “Oh, it’s just a sound,” I’d say to myself while glancing at the watch I just glanced at thirty seconds ago.  “I wonder why the priests aren’t here?  I wouldn’t need to be here if they did this all day.  Isn’t that their job?”  (Questions from a 10 year old that I could easily answer right now.)

I don’t know when, but it did happen.  Out of nowhere it just happened.  Time was forgotten.  Creepy, creaking sounds continued but I knew that I was safe.  It was peaceful.  It was just the four of us for awhile.  I finally figured out that I didn’t need to ask any more dumb questions and I was praying that the three would not answer any of them outloud.  It was just a spacious silence in that cavernous, empty temple of God.  It was just silence in darkness.  It was just silence in darkness during a godly hour that God provided for my dad.  I felt a contentment that was a new feeling for me.  It was just me in this church.  I was in charge keeping the vigil.  No one else was here to help me.  It was just me and the three of them hiding somewhere.

Just in case the three didn’t know it, I tell them, “My dad wasn’t able to be here tonight so I’m subbing for him.”

The back door swings open and in walks Joe Smith (real name) with a loud, “Good morning!”  (He must have been an early riser.)  “You’re Walt’s son, aren’t you?  How are you?”  “Fine,” I reply as I realize my peace was abruptly  interrupted.  58 minutes it was a chore but now it was kinda fun.  I can’t wait to return home for a few hours of sleep walking back here again for school.

I walk home, still dank and dark.  I honored my dad’s obligation.  It may not have meant much to my 10 years but I knew that it meant a lot to him.

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“How To…”

How-To-Tell-What-Websites-Someone-Has-VisitedWe’re pretty sophisticated people; in all of our research, findings and conclusions.  There is so much ingenuity and know-how that you would think we’d know how to be happier, contented and saved.

You could call it the “Dr. Phil Meets Jesus” show with presented formulas to aid the viewer at home who has nothing else to do on a weekday afternoon.  Many religions will present you with steps that you need to take to be all three of those things, including the Catholic Church.  (We have more answers than you have questions!)

Someone asks me if there’s a purgatory, as though through ordination I’ve divined the answer.  I tell them that I only got a “C” in purgatory, so I’m not the one to ask.

We love formulas because it stops us from doing the work ourselves.  Once again the easy road is chosen in this first world experience we call the U.S.  Why would anyone struggle for insights or direction when the work has already been done?  “If you’ve done it for yourself, then why not share with me so that I don’t need to do it,” is the statement we’d never say out loud but is our true feeling.

Jesus talked in parables.  Confusing, multiple parables that baffled his audience more than it helped.  Jewish wisdom always answers one question with another question.

Our life experiences vary from person to person yet the search for meaning and purpose is the same.  But how and when we search is our unique response.  Developmentally, I’ve always felt about twenty years behind my age.  I need to live almost twice as long to gain the insights of someone half my age.  Oh well.   The searching and yearning continues.

We each uncover and cherish our personal discoveries in our own way and time.  We become impatient talking to someone who’s struggling with something that we’ve resolved years before.  Others smile to themselves as we say some statement that breaks through open doors.  Yet, each is an insight and each is important because of the information it provides.  This information or insight becomes such because we have uncovered it ourselves, we dug deep until the treasure was found.  We found something valuable and it is now ours.

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50%

50 percentWhat if you only performed 50% in your occupation or even in your life?  Where would your job be if the workday yields 50%?

Heart surgeon unemployed
Baseball player millions and millions
of dollars and endorsements
Hair Stylist half the head looks good
Politician one percent away from a lifetime occupation
Bicyclist dead
Chiropractor your patient simply changes her name to “Eileen”
60’s Rock N’ Roll Band at a City Picnic “Boy, they still sound good!”
Weatherperson  continual full time work, 401K, with benefits
Architect you figure it out when your 17th floor desk slides southward
Priest’s Farewell Party  half cries over dessert while the other half cheers you off to your car

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Labels

My eighth grade nun told us that, “there is a place for everything and everything in its place.”  We can do that with people as well.  We love and need to categorize and label people so that we can place them somewhere in our compartmentalized brain.  That way, we can relate and deal with them in a necessary fashion.  Convenient, yes.  True, hardly.

This past week I met people who each told me that they were OCD, PSTD, an alcoholic and a lesbian.  (I live a rich life!) Thank God for acronyms, or I would not be able to keep these people straight.  Not only have their lives been reduced to a condition, disease or a social unknown but we’ve created letters to describe them to help us keep it simple.  (Simple is what counts, doesn’t it?  It also helps for insurance billing purposes.)

To shrink someone to a disease has got to be the worst condition human condition, both for us and for the bearer of it.  The one person freely told me at lunch that he was OCD as though it was a reward rather than a mental condition.  I have always suspected that labels dismiss responsibilities for both the hearer and the bearer.  Upon hearing a label, our minds immediately to our past experiences, newspaper articles or stories that we have heard.  Once that label hits our ears it is never removed from our brains.

Try telling one of these people that they are “persons” and you will be lifted up back to your planet.  At parties, I often hear priests brag about their Enneagram numbers as though it’s the blood in their veins or Meyer/Briggs letters that has been so abused it has no meaning any longer.  A priest friend married and left the priesthood long ago and his in-laws still call him “Father.”  Go figure.

Why do we have such a difficult relating to people without diminishing their worth or reducing their  person hood.  The early Church Fathers struggled until their reached three persons in One God, each with its own identity and each connected to the other.

Divorced or left-handed, can we do any less?

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“The Song Has Ended But The Melody…”

theater-masks(a funeral reflection)
An Irving Berlin song sings, “the song has ended but the melody lingers on….”  Is there a better phrase for this musical funeral?  I don’t think so.  But I’m wrong because there is another, more appropriate, Irving Berlin song for this celebration and thankfulness of life that is Mike’s.

“The costumes, the scenery, the makeup, the props…the audience that lifts you when you’re down… The headaches, the heartaches, the backaches, the flop… the opening when your heart beats like a drum, the closing when the customers won’t come…  There’s no business like show business, Like no business I know, Everything about it is appealing, Everything the traffic will allow, No where could you have that happy feeling…When you aren’t stealing that extra bow…”  Let’s go on with the show, Let’s go on with the show!  The show!  The show!

We think of the stage as, well, staged.  “It’s not real, but it’s fun to watch,” we say to ourselves.  There is no Camelot, the Wicked Witch is dead and the “Impossible Dream” is never achieved.  So there you have it.  But that wasn’t Mike’s life and I sure hope that it is not yours either.

The stage’s icon is two masks  – one smiles and the other frowns.  We may wake up in the morning with both of those expressions on our faces but we quickly put on the smiling face.  Yet, is that authentic?  Is that really who you are throughout the day?

Driving to work you get cut off by a reckless driver that unnerves you but you chalk it up to Milwaukee drivers.  Your boss returns your project because there were “numerous errors.”  A coworker tells you that your blue outfit doesn’t match your shoes.  And, it’s not even lunchtime yet.  Through it all, a mask of smiles spreads across your face.

We didn’t even get to the evening at home yet!  You return home after your smiley day and apologize to your wife because you’ve forgotten the one errand you promised you’d make for her.  Your kid asks your help with her homework but it’s math, not your best subject.  And so ends another day with another one beginning in eight hours.

Theatre people tend to think that the show is all about them.  It’s a natural progression considering the work and sweat it took to get them where they are.  They are protective and absorbed in their craft.  John the Baptist thought that it was all about him until his cousin showed up and asked for purifying water to be poured over him.  Jesus thought that the sun rose and set on him, being a Savior and all, until God fills him up with a mission far beyond his wildest imagination.  God thinks that it’s all about Him!  Well, perhaps He’s right.

We all have a role to play in our journeys through life.  That role may change, be reshaped and nuanced over time but, nevertheless, as the song sings, “the show must go on.”

Each of us discovers within ourselves a passion that carries us throughout life.  A passion that only we, along with the grace of God, can keep alive.

It is our hope that, indeed, there is a Camelot to be discovered each day in our dedication and loyalty and commitment to each other.  That, indeed, there are witches who are dead to themselves and who try to influence and persuade us to sell out and to lose our hope.  That, indeed, the “Impossible Dream” is neither impossible or distant.  The dream lies within each of us, each day; each moment of each day.

Mike’s life reflects hope.  A hope that was captured in song and dance, even though that was not his primary occupation.  But, it was his passion.  He assembled 80+ year olds to remember the musical standards, the fun, laughter and the hope that music instills within us all.  He brought a community together many times in his years here to celebrate a hope that knows no age or time.

That is the hope of our faith.  It is a faith that what we do does make a difference, each in our own way.  It is the hope that our time during this journey is meaningful; no matter what shape our minds or bodies may be in.  It is the hope that the smile we put on this morning may change the frown in that person’s face, or that person’s face, or that person’s face.

There is a Camelot, the Wicked Witch is truly dead and the Dream is not as Impossible as we thought it was.  Mike told us that.  Mike showed us that.

“My thoughts go back to a heavenly dance, A moment of bliss we spent, Our hearts were filled with a song or romance As into the night we went And sang to our hearts’ content.  The song is ended But the melody lingers on, You and the song are gone But the melody lingers on. 

The night was splendid And the melody seemed to say ‘Summer will pass away Take your happiness while you may.’ The moon descended And I found with the break of dawn You and the song had gone; But the melody lingers on.”

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Lent & Earworm

ImageI just learned a new word for an old experience.  It’s been happening to me since who knows when and I didn’t know that it had a name.

Earworm.  98% of us experience earworm.  Women and men experience the phenomenon equally often, but earworms tend to last longer for women and irritate them more.  Yes, I thought I was unique and the only one who experiences this.  Yes, I thought that no one else could identify with repetitious melodies running through the brain.  Yes, I thought I was alone when, in fact, I am together with so many people.

“An earworm is a catchy piece of music that continually repeats through a person’s mind after it is no longer playing.  Phrases used to describe an earworm include musical imagery repetition, involuntary musical imagery, and stuck song syndrome,” according to the Internets official explanier of all things explainable.

If it’s a song that you like, well, keep it humming in your brain.  However, if it’s a song that just gets stuck between your awareness and your being unaware – then just let the music stop.

The miracle of the mind and the mindlessness of the mind.

Spiritually, what if we put repeating thoughts into your brains and then let the repetition take on a life of its own?  What happens then?  Someone once said that if you hear something repeated long enough then it will become true.  The political pundits have learned that lesson well.

“Obama isn’t a U.S. citizen,” Obamacare will kill old people…” just keep saying it and it will become true.

What have we put in our heads that repeats itself endlessly, or worse yet, what have others put into your heads that remain for a lifetime.  If a parent says, “don’t even try that,” that child has a life-long parrot attached to his/her shoulder.

And like anything that begins small, it can only grow and grow.  What begins with “God thinks I’m a sinner,” moves into “I am a sinner,” and then segues into “I must not be a good person because I am a sinner,” and then matures into “God made junk when He made me.”

Our mind, in its repetition, can not only be repeated but slowly can change life’s lyrics to whatever we wish them to be.

Lent can be a time kill that earworm – at least with repeats that are not healthy or promoting an authentic Christian spirituality.

The mind’s repeating of “I don’t like you” can be replaced with, “I don’t know you yet and wonder why you’re not like me?”  “I am a sinner” is replaced with “God’s mercy is greater than my sin, and besides, my sin wasn’t that great in the first place.”  “My life is meaningless” is replaced with “My life has/had meaning and purpose in each decade and perhaps for different reasons in each.”

For older adults:  “The world is coming to end,” is replaced with “I am coming to end and the world will go on, remarkably and surprisingly, without me.”  Go figure.

Lent is all about repeating what is life-giving and enriching for yourselves and for those around you.  Repeat all you want but may your earworm’s repetitions of music and thoughts be filled with hope, forgiveness and peace.

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April In Wisconsin

God of Spring,
We know that you’re out there, somewhere;
we just can’t seem to find you. You don’t
seem to live in Wisconsin.

Come, fill us with your light and warmth.
You tempted us sometimes with double
the normal temperature. Please, don’t
tease us.  We know that You are our light
and our warmth. In You we reside and
rely.  Just share some of that great warmth
with us Wisconsin folks, please?
I find that people are nicer and more
welcoming when pleasant weather abounds.
It sounds sad to say it that way but,
I guess that it’s true. I admit it even
about myself.

Lord, I want my attitude, my disposition,
my words and deeds to be reflective
of Your unconditional love for us.
And not be weather dependent, whatever
the weather may be.

Your warmth can embrace our dank,
March and April nights. Your kindness
can fill our cloudy March and April skies.
Make us more warming in these seemingly
unending winters. Make us more welcoming
during the days when it’s warm one moment
and windy the next.

Make us more loving, Lord. After all, you’ve told us that we’re your barometer in this world.  We control the temperature when gossip begins, when tempers flair and when anger or frustration becomes an easy solution.  We are your barometer in this broken, fragmented, cool and cloudy world of ours.

Be our warmth. Be our sun. Be our moderate weather. With Your help, may it is always 68 degrees, partly sunny with a slight chance of rain in our minds and hearts; but only in the morning; and then clear skies throughout the afternoon and evening hours.

Perhaps Wisconsin can be Camelot after all!
Thank You God.

Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

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“Bro”Mance

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“If we see in on TV then it must be okay.”

There still ought to be a squiggle little line under that word meaning that it’s misspelled but it now means that two men can enjoy a dinner together without buying furniture afterwards.

“Bromance.”  Apparently it was created by an editor to describe skaters relationships to each other. Creating a new word, as corny as it sounds, also has a societal impact because words have meaning and words can take power away from something and place it in a proper context.

How many men over the years have hesitated a supper invitation because of what it might look like to those around them or those they would tell?  It was simply too risky to be placed in a situation that society deemed degenerate; the least of wholesome and probably everybody’s uncle.

The Christian church’s long standing abomination is slowly eroding with societal insights.  (Blame the “secularists,” I suppose.)  Misunderstood and badly applied has been many teachings, sermons and easy dismissal of an always present group of people.  That group?  We still can hardly say the word so another was created to soften the blow, “gay.”  (Cue Fred Astaire?)  As shallow as the new word was, the more shallow were the continuing arguments against a group that just didn’t seem to disappear (or die).

The present or the rewinding conjures up pairings that can now be identified as true friendships between men whose sexuality is never considered or questioned.  If two men experience a strong bond then why does it mean something sexual except to an audience whose minds seems to be somewhere else?

The present includes television programs that I enjoy, “Suits,” “Graceland,” “Scrubs,” “Chicago Fire,” “White Collar,” “Strike Back,” “House” and the other doctor; all macho shows that feature strong bonds between, dare we say it, two men.  Locally it’s been Green Bay Packer’s Aaron Rodgers and Milwaukee Brewer’s Ryan Braun.  The bible has David and Jonathan, David and Uriah, Jesus and John.  Going out in groups of four or more was considered proper etiquette in the past for men (women somehow get away with two) but slowly and surely two men can enjoy a glass of wine without the whispering behind them.

I laugh to myself now.  Leave it to the straight guys to pave the way for homosexuals.  Once the straight guys finally got it then the homos can finally find respectability – leave behind a “ghetto” mentality and risky sexual behaviors, and find a growing sliver of societal acceptance. 

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An Open Letter to my Nephew in Basic Training

ImageHi Ethan,

These weeks must not be easy for you.  It is intended to be difficult and perhaps even rough because of the job that lies before you.  You are in the military which carries an organized discipline and regimen to ensure your unison within an organization that prides itself on one mind and one heart. 

It’s ironic (note the correct use of the word) that our society prides itself on individualism in every walk of life but in the military; individualism is not only discouraged it is dismantled.  But it is only intended to be that way for a while.  This is the “formative” time for you.  The military wants the “you” to become “us.”  That part is easy for you because of your age. 

You wish to belong and to be a part of something greater and clearer than you know yourself to be.  But it is still only one stage in life’s many stages.   The military’s glamor is the lure that drew you in.  The necessary work that the military demands occurs through obedience, discipline and self-denial.  (All virtues we are taught to develop on our own and often question throughout life.)

If it helps you, then see life in stages for indeed life is stages.  This is but only one stage on which you perform.  There are many others that will unfold for you as time moves on.

You grew up in a wonderful home with two caring parents.  What a great stage to begin life’s work.  You are now in a stage of preparation for a future you’re not sure of but in which you trust those who will lead you.  Trust them.  Trust them but only for a while.  Strengthen the trust within yourself that your parents gave you.  Trust those with whom you place your trust.  Make sure that they match the trust that you’ve entrusted within yourself. 

What I’m saying is that self-trust is the only worthy trust because then whatever happens, the responsibility falls upon one person and one person only – it’s not the military, it’s not my parents, it’s not this or that – it is me. 

The peace that you feel throughout your life using trust in this way will see you successfully through all of life’s stages.  And I hope and pray that you have many, many life stages to pass through in this wonderful journey we call life.

I trust you because you’ve trusted yourself,
Joe

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