“Do You Like Yourself?”

Posted on May 26, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

I wonder what it’s like to like yourself. What does it feel and look like?

Would you wake up smiling at this new day to balance that baffling one before? Is your head even with your back and your steps lighter? Does that bright blue sweater replace the solidly black one you often wear? Do you need less salt on your food because you’re now able to taste the food’s flavors and then enjoy one scoop of ice cream when you wanted two? Do you copy your nearby cat at mid-afternoon and close your eyes for thirty glorious minutes?

Does liking yourself soften your car’s music not to bother the one next to yours and is your “Thank you” authentic to the cashier with all her tattoos in full view?

Nearing eighty years, can you smile, replacing a curse word, when that top button will just not button?

During that party, that corner is now replaced with a fake plant because you are mingling, engaging, and enjoying the company of others as they are enjoying yours. Is this what it is like to like yourself? To be yourself. Does liking yourself help others to like themselves? Isn’t this a beautiful virus?

Liking is only the primer before the final coat of love. Isn’t, “Love one another as you love yourself” written somewhere? Yet, how can that happen, occur, and transform your and other’s lives; unless you, don’t kinda, but sincerely like…

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One in God’s Spirit

Posted on May 14, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

God’s spirit will call the people from the East to join hands with the people from the West, and the people from the North to join hands with the people from the South and all will seek the other’s good. None will smite [another], nor deal deceitfully. They will sing at their labors, and be thankful for the fruits of the fields and factories. Their soldiers will learn the arts of peace. . . . All will be spared the degradation of making implements of war and the agonizing shame of using them. God’s spirit will join an old man’s wisdom with a young man’s strength and they will be partners for the Lord. They will respect one another, and will be slow to take offense and quick to forgive. . . .

God’s spirit will give eyes to [humankind] with which to see the glory of the Lord. God’s spirit will give ears . . . to hear the sound of his trumpet as well as his still small voice. He will dwell with us and be our God, and we shall be his people. He will wipe away our tears, dispel our doubt, remove our fears, and lead us out. He will heal the brokenhearted, open the eyes of the blind, release the captives, preach the good news to the poor, and usher in the acceptable year of the Lord. He will bulldoze the mountains and fill in the valleys, he will make the rough places smooth and the crooked ways straight. He’ll stand every man on his feet so that all [humankind] may see his glory together.

Clarence Jordan, “The Substance of Faith and Other Cotton Patch Sermons”

Clarence Jordan (1912–1969), a farmer and New Testament Greek scholar, was the founder of Koinonia Farm, a small but influential religious community in southwest Georgia. He was instrumental in founding Habitat for Humanity.

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Marriage Blessing for Second or Third Marriage

Posted on May 11, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

god of the Sun – Roman-Apollo, Greek-Apollo

Light reveals, reflects and illumines.
May the warmth of your mutual devotion for each other always enlighten each other’s life.

god of War – Roman-Mars, Greek-Ares

May your disagreements always be minor. May your discords only lead to a merging of hearts, even when the minds may disagree.

Messenger god – Roman-Mercury, Greek-Hermes

May your thoughts always convey your devotion to each other. May your messages, spoken and unspoken, be based only in a mutual trust and understanding.

god of Time – Roman-Saturn, Greek-Cronus

Since time is running out for both of you, may you never hesitate to express, show and freely give your love to each other. May you remember that time is but a number and your love, forever.

god of Growth – Roman-Maia, Greek-Persephone

May the god of Growth only increase within you both because of each other. Like good wine, only with age can we truly and genuinely know, forgive, love, and immensely feel.

god of Wealth – Roman-Plutus, Greek-Pluto

May the god of Wealth, despite a teacher’s salary yet buffeted by a CEO’s be with you both. May you always know that the richness and wealth of your lives together can never be counted or measured but can only be cherished and lived.

And, to all the gods and the God of us all…”If at first you don’t succeed…”

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Who’s the Vine & Who’s the Branch?

Posted on April 29, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

“Remain in me” is the gospel imperative calling us to an intimacy in Christ that must be the foundation of our identity. St. John tells us that we remain in him when we fulfill the commandment to love by living in his Spirit.

What does it mean to “remain in Christ?”

First of all, we have to ask ourselves which Jesus is the “Christ” in which we hope and pray ourselves to be and remain? The gospels portray various facets of Jesus as “the Christ.” These same gospels also portray Jesus as, well, Jesus. The meaning of remaining “in Christ” takes shape in the scriptures for not only Jesus but also includes you and me.

Take John’s gospel, for example. The first sign of Jesus witnessing to the presence of God’s love at work in him is at a party—the wedding feast at Cana. There’s the Jesus who refuses his mother request saying that it’s not time to be “Christ.” However, collaborating with his mother, Jesus brings people together for a good time, foreshadowing the reign of God’s love.

A life that resonates with this Christ today is a hospitable presence in a world desperate for communion. Jesus also uses his “Christ-ness” in serving the best wine last. A total “no-no” when you’re paying the wedding bill or is it Christ-like?

There is also the Jesus who performs his song and dance to the gathered listeners but then he escapes to a lonely mountain. His “Christ-ness” hears those gathering listeners following him who want and need to hear even more about faith and fidelity to God. He slowly becomes Christ, as we do, and then joining them enjoying fish and chips at the sea or in making a couple of fish become baskets full leftovers for all the folks to take home with them. No refrigerators, so quickly please pass and share the Good News about the food of life to your neighbors and friends.

That’s his beautiful, powerful vine story about himself and us. There’s that ever growing and expanding vine bearing fruit for all to pay attention to and enjoy. Whether it’s salty fish, cheap wine or good wine, a shared piece of bread, telling and sharing a story or two, or touching his tortured side, as Sly and the Family Stone sang, “It’s a Family Affair.”

Fast forward to the account of the woman caught in adultery. In this story of misery meeting mercy, a woman is about to be stoned. Rather than expressing scorn or condemnation, Jesus, or now the Christ, offers only words of love and mercy. In our human judgmental world we keep our stones close at hand. Sin sticks. But to remain “in Christ” is to be a nonjudgmental presence with no dividing stones at hand to cast but open hands calming us to heed that other Divine voice, the Holy Spirit.

The garden of Gethsemane is the best duality example of our Jesus/Christ story. First, it’s the earnest plea of “Father, let this cup pass (Jesus) followed by his saying “Your will be done.” (Christ-stuff)

When are we the searching and stumbling “Jesus” and when are we a “Christ-like” one?

Throwing stones is so maliciously easy…mercy is the Divine living within in us to come down from the mountains of ourselves and become the “Christ-like” to both ourselves and especially to others.

This may surprise you but Christ is not his last name. It is who he struggled with, argued about, bowed downed to and slowly became. Christ is not a last name, it is a title, an earned title. Can we hope and say the same about our searching and stumbling lives?

If we are not pruned of ourselves to reap the vine of a Christ-like love then we are very much withering away, alone.

“There is [but, only] one vine and we [We?] are the branches.”

Adapted from Fr. Richard M. Gula

Richard M. Gula, PSS, taught in seminaries and ministry formation programs for many years and then served as director of personnel for the U.S. Province of the Sulpicians. He is now retired.

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Returning God’s Love for Us

Posted on April 21, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

A great tragedy of our world is that men and women do not know, really know, that God loves them. Some believe it in a shadowy sort of way, but their belief in God’s love for them can be very remote and abstract.

Because of this, we do not know how to…we do not know how to…love God back. Often we don’t even try, because it all seems so very difficult or we can think we’re doing our faithful best by repeating repetitive words and rituals but we need to realize that the Christian faith, in its essence, is a love affair between God and each human being. Not just a simple love affair: it is a passionate love affair.

God so loved each of us that he created us in his image? Have you heard that one before? God so loved each of us that he became human himself, died on a cross, was raised from the dead by the Father, ascended into heaven—and all this in order to bring each of us back to himself, to that heaven which we had lost through our own fault? Sound kinda familiar?

Yes, of course us Christians have dogmas, rules and regulations but they all concern love, which is the essence. Dogmas and tenets without love are dead letters, not even worth spelling out. God is love. And where love is, God is.

It is time we awoke from our long sleep, we Christians. It is time we shed our fears of and about God.

Our relationship toward and about God tends to move in cycles. For how long we’ve heard of the necessity of a “personal relationship” with God as though that’s the end all. Heard countless times, “Is Jesus the Lord and Savior of your Life?” as though it’s a “yes/no quiz” question on life’s final test. Or, the best, or worse, is taking out of context and isolating one sentence out of John’s Gospel and making it the gospel: if you don’t accept Jesus as your Savior then you’re going to Hell. Period.

That’s not Catholic theology. That’s Protestant. There is of course a singular bond between the Creator and the created. But the very much stronger bond is called the Body of Christ. Kinda sounds familiar, I hope? The Body of Christ.

The Body of Christ that gathers and brings us to this ritual, the Body of Christ that we eat and the Body of Christ that we become, share and act upon in our behaviors and commitments to each other. And to our treatment of the earth and dealings with other nations.

Now that’s a passionate love worth embracing and living. The peace and joy we all seek? That love brings us and fills us up with an authentic, true and lasting peace. A Divine peace. This “Body of Christ love” immerses us in a joy far more fulfilling than that silly one sided God and Me one. Those private questions and answers that we all have and hold up are handled and erased by the amount of love that we love about ourselves and the love, care and support we extend to others.

Because as we say in Church, “Thanks be to God.”

Adapted from Catherine de Hueck Doherty, “Grace in Every Season”

Catherine de Hueck Doherty (1896–1985), a laywoman of Russian heritage, was foundress of the Madonna House Apostolate in Combermere, Canada. Details at madonnahouse.org.

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Worthy!? Come on!

Posted on April 7, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

“Lord, I am not worthy that you should come under my roof…”

Unworthy? Ummm…

Abraham was not only too old to have a kid but he enjoyed the company of a mistress and it wasn’t just for tea and crumpets. (Birth of the Muslim religion.) Abraham’s wife boldly laughed at God and got away with it. (Only person in the Bible achieving that feat).

It’s an endless list of struggling Biblical believers that looks a lot like a bunch of comedic characters in a TV show that we laugh about and move on to the next comedy. Yet, this is real. This is our faith and hearing about the faith of those who’ve gone before us.

Noah was a drunk. And, just telling me that Mary didn’t say her “Yes” with hints of both wonder and anxiousness? Miriam was a gossip. Jacob was a deceiver stealing his older brother’s birthright. Lazarus died and then needed to die again. John the Baptist loses his head over a silly pledge. The great King David had his best friend killed so he could marry his wife. What’s your excuse for your unworthiness?

These are our forebears before, during, and after Jesus. This is where we enter this comedic, serious drama of life. Before receiving the Body of Christ we admit we are not worthy…who is!? It is exactly our unworthiness that prompts us to prayer and to gather here.

For his done deed, Judas needs no introduction to belong to this motley group. He needed some extra cash. Moses stuttered and forty years later was refused entry into the promised land. What’s your major excuse for your unworthiness?

We come to this sacrament as the broken people that we are to be united, once and every time after. Joining our lives with the foibles and follies of centuries-old people. What a wonderful and complex company we keep.

And is the question, in spite of who we are, or is the question because of who we are?

Eve selfishly thought that an “apple a day kept God away.” The Brothers of Joseph sold him only to be saved by him, years later, when they were hungry. Thomas gets the dubious adjective “Doubting” added before his name until reality faces him in the face. Matthew kept his tax license, just in case. Brothers James and John? They both butted heads about who’s the better person. Predicted for after they’re dead! What’s your minor excuse for your unworthiness?

To paraphrase a philosopher, “What is it that you desire, you who aim at perfection? Your wishes need to have no measure. However much you may desire, I can show you how to attain it, even in and within its infinity…it is the present, [this very moment, this very passing minute] is ever filled with infinite treasure, it contains more than you will ever, ever have the capacity to hold and behold.

Before receiving Communion, let’s form that statement not as a statement but as a question. “Lord, I am not worthy that you should come under my roof? Come on, Lord. You’ve gotta be kidding me.”

Be glad you are not worthy or else there is absolutely no other reason for us to be here. Just recall and remember the crazy company we keep.

Oh, and our first pope? He denied he knew the Son of God…let’s see, was it once or three times?

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Easter! One Day!?

Posted on April 4, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

It had been a startling week since Easter Sunday. These disciples had had their worlds, as we would say today, truly rocked and rolled. What to do when everything around you is shaken, no longer the same? Nothing makes sense anymore. We start thinking that it’s now forever and Jesus; Jesus shows us it’s only for a time.

What do you do whether savoring Easter’s joys or falling heap deep into the throes of personal sadness, family upsets, worrisome medical news?

Well, what do you do? Well, you do something you know how to do . . . Like, those now wondering and now wandering disciples, you … you go fishing. But there was little reward out on those waters. Until something happened.

Was it a replay of Jesus calling Peter years before when he’d had a bad night out on the sea when Peter thought he was Jesus and couldn’t walk on water?

Jesus, a carpenter who supposedly knew nothing about fishing, amazingly fills their empty, hungry nets. Now, after trauma had ripped through them through his death and resurrection Jesus uses that familiar fishing event to remind them of their initial calls.

Jesus may have chuckled to himself saying, “Remember, guys? Well, I told you many times before but I can better than repeat it to you one more time, so I’ll show you.”

And, what did he do? A post-resurrection miracle to convince and amaze them?

No. No, he made them breakfast. There’s nothing like enjoying breakfast beside the lake. They were stunned, silenced, and maybe amused themselves. Because you never, ever know what happens with Jesus around.

This relationship with Jesus motivates Peter to proclaim months later that Jesus is the cornerstone of faith, the keystone which stabilizes the entire frame of belief.

Easter, continues in our Church’s calendar, but forever resides within our minds and hearts. For there is always and everywhere a time of heightened gratitude for the dying and rising of Jesus; that we too can breakfast with him in a new or renewed awareness. (Breakfast as a verb; only Jesus!)

So, pause around the fire of that realization on the lake and soak in his comfort for whatever sadly Good Friday or joyous Easter you may experience at anytime. His Presence. It is a time, an encounter, for wonder, peace and trust in the connection with the One who anchors our boats and feeds us with himself.

Because isn’t breakfast the most important meal of the day? I mean, all of our spiritual days?

John:21

When they climbed out on shore, they saw a charcoal fire with fish on it and bread. Jesus said to them, “Bring some of the fish you just caught.” So Simon Peter went over and dragged the net ashore full of one hundred fifty-three large fish. Even though there were so many, the net was not torn. Jesus said to them, “Come, have breakfast.” And none of the disciples dared to ask him, “Who are you?” because they realized it was the Lord. Jesus came over and took the bread and gave it to them, and in like manner the fish. This was now the third time Jesus was revealed to his disciples after being raised from the dead.

The Gospel of the Lord.

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The day before “Holy Week”

Posted on March 25, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

We absorb watching the movie move from one moment to many moments. We press the pause button and notice there are 34:50 seconds left.

We are intrigued and perhaps identified with some characters but are happy that the others are simply villains. We carefully watch and weigh every scene as the plot unfolds, thickens, and then seems to also slowly un-thicken as those remaining 34:50 seconds are shown.

Whether it’s popping the popcorn or needing to pee, we love our remote’s pause button. We’re able to stand and stretch after watching this long, future film recommended to us by our friends.

While popping or peeing, we have that pause to guess or figure out the end of the movie. We’re confident who the villains are and we’re winning for the winners. Smiling to ourselves we think, “It’s only a movie.”

Returning to our favorite “movie chair,” we watch those remaining minutes. Entranced now. Involved now. Included now even if our names are not listed in the closing credits.

It’s the movie of our lives. It’s the movie we Christians call the beginning of “Holy Week.”

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Easter Sunday for Older Catholics

Posted on March 23, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

Easter’s joy may be cloudily looming by so many, many of our accumulating years. Young ears heard about eternal judgment, again and again, and inculcated during those so very important and formative growing years. All about the practices (whether doing or missing them), memorizing them, honoring religious rites, and that oh so very, very important kneeling and standing at the correct times. And now, here we all are in the third chapter of our faith life’s journey.

Our faith formation time youth, in body, mind, and spirit, engendered into a rather beautiful and powerful gift of faith, was often based on that eternal, all awaiting, that unknown sometime but soon-to-come, judgment. Believing was secondary to the doing or as say, “practicing” our faith. Grace was considered a reward instead of strengthening us. Indulgences were a bonus, if practiced correctly – the right time and said correctly. Please notice that I said, “said” and not “prayed.”

It happened to be on a First Friday that I was distributing communion at a hospital. I entered her room and she sighed, “Thank goodness you’re here!” I felt flattered until she told me that she’d never missed First Friday communion in forty-one years and feared, being the hospital, that she would miss it. That’s the best example I have of our faith’s formative years growing up.

Analogously, we can safely say that we were taught the Hebrew Scripture or Old Testament method of living faith. Simply said, it was judgment and commandments. Fear can easily be inserted at any time and anywhere. “Pray, Pay and Obey” may sound funny now but it was the unspoken mantra of many Christian churches, including us Catholics.

Faith’s words of mercy, forgiveness, compassion, and generosity were spoken but intended to be “said,” (there’s that word again!).

The Christian Scripture or New Testament boldly holds up those words of mercy, forgiveness, compassion, and generosity.

The act of simply saying words to satisfy our jealous and loving God is transformed into the act of performing and bringing life to the words we say. Words no longer merely said but now believed and lived to the best of our gifts and abilities.

That’s the kind of Easter joy that’s available and celebrated for Catholics and Christians of all ages.

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Why Catholic Sermons are so Bad

Posted on March 23, 2024 by Rev. Joe Jagodensky, SDS.

I begin the sermon, as I begin every sermon with, “In today’s Gospel.” I then proceed to illustrate how dumb you all are by repeating the Gospel you’ve just heard, sprinkled with long words you’ve never heard of, many not even in English, to show off how smart I am and to justify my graduate education.

Then around the five-minute point, I move to offer personal examples that hopefully apply to your life. By personal, I mean that all the examples are about me; thoughts I’ve had during the week, people I’ve met, and how I affected them including a story or two about my mother and the great impact she’s had on my life. (She’s included every week.) The time is now ten minutes into the sermon.

It’s now time for the big conclusion. However, there will be three conclusions. You will hear one thinking relief that it’s almost over when I segue into conclusion two and finally the third.

We’re now at the 15:30 mark which I reach each and every week. I’ll give this same sermon two more times today regardless if there’s a children’s Mass.

On Monday morning, I’ll smile to myself at how effective I was over the weekend as I plot, I mean plan, next weekend’s sermon by using the exact, same format.

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